Relationships

‘A hangover of a colonial past’: Why we have narrow views on relationships

The word ‘monogamy’ originates from Greek and European thought.

How bad relationships can hurt our hearts for real

A new study shows the ups and downs in everyday relationships affect our physical health.

Decolonising romance: Prioritising cultural needs in my relationship

"Hopefully one day soon 'actively decolonising' is a sexy part of everyone’s Tinder bio."

Why are men so obsessed with anal?

Anal was the 8th most searched term and 6th most viewed category on Pornhub in 2021.

"Why do I think of disgusting stuff when I’m horny?" | Horny On Main

Season 2 of Horny on Main is out now on your favourite podcast platform.

I'm straight but I give guys blow jobs as a side hustle

What it's like being a male sex worker

We fell in love in a VR chatroom

"In VR we can be whoever we want or whatever we want."

It’s 2022 and NZ law still doesn’t define what consent is

“While the legal system may have a lot of grey areas, consent should never be a grey area."

Heterosexual sex can be so much better for women. Here's how.

Too many women aren’t reaching their potential for sexual pleasure. It's time to fix that.

Celebrating Lunar New Year without your family sucks

But it's not all doom and gloom, Sidney Wong writes.

Boundaries, communication, and jealousy: What it’s like being polyamorous

Re: wanted to know what the biggest misconceptions around polyamory are, what it’s like being in a polyamorous relationship and how people cope with jealousy. 

We spoke…

How do I pick a good partner for losing my virginity? | Horny on Main

Horny on Main is a place to unpack and explore the complicated and messy territories of sex, love and intimacy. It’s not just for the horndogs,…

How do I get my libido back after being totally not keen this pandemic? | Horny on Main

Horny on Main is Re:’s sex advice column. It’s a place to unpack and explore the complicated and messy territories of sex, love and intimacy. It’s…

Today we launch our new sex advice column: Horny On Main

Today we launch the new Re: sex advice column, Horny on Main. You can read the first instalment, How do I get my libido back after…

Experts answer: When is it safe to fuck strangers under the Covid-19 traffic light system

With all the rules about public health during Covid, one piece of information has been missing.

Dating lessons we can all learn from Netflix's Love on the Spectrum

We talked to two young people on the autism spectrum about the lessons they can teach about dating.

What do you look for in a partner, and do you even have those qualities yourself?

What is cheating? And is marriage still important to our generation?

Underwater Dreams - Jebivetar | 48Hours

A therapy session digs deep as a couple enthusiastically pursue the seemingly pointless, invisible and impossible.

Nominated for:

Dame Gaylene Preston & WIFT Best Female Director
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Pastafarian Productions - Rekindled Spirits | 48Hours

June and Trevor go camping to revive a relationship that is on the rocks. 

Nominated for:

L'Affare Ultra48
Dame Gaylene Preston & WIFT Best Female Director

Best Script
Best Animation
Best Score/Song
Won:

Taranaki…

Snack To The Future - Judy | 48Hours

A woman forms an unlikely friendship with her partner’s blow-up doll, after trust is broken in their relationship.

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Tasteful Sideboob - Hydrangea | 48Hours

During a Reiki session, Rosie is challenged by her own subconscious and not all is as it seems.

Won:

Best Performer
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The Creamery - In Deep | 48Hours

A group of young men organise a complex series of events to get their friend talking to the girl of his dreams. But who is heisting…

Pleasure study identifies four ways women make sex better

Thousands of women aged 18 to 93 have described specific ways they make vaginal penetration more pleasurable in a new study.

Researchers in the US used information…

Trans people tell us how they fell in love

We meet four gender diverse couples at locations in Tāmaki Makaurau that are special to them, and hear their swoon-worthy stories of how they met and…

  • 26 Mar 21

A sex therapist’s advice on the importance of touch during isolation

Over the past few months, the world has become intimately aware of the impact of our touch. We have started to see our own hands as…

One Couple, Two Cultures: In Photos

It might seem strange in 2019 to write an article about cross-cultural relationships. But even today, many of us still partner up within our own culture.
In…

Can we fix break ups?

Break ups are not fun. So how can we get better at them? We talk to two exes, a counsellor and people on the street about…

What happens when your girlfriend is 2D?

After a traumatic breakup, Jonty fell in love with an anime character called Rem. Before long, they were in a relationship. Jonty shares his story, which…

A long Italian love affair with flowers

Vilelma is 94 years old and takes flowers to her husband's grave every day. EVERY DAY. Re: contributor Anthony Costello met Vilelma on a trip to…