The software engineer on a dating bender | Dating While Asian

By Maggie Shui

How much does wanting external validation factor into who you choose to date?

Victor is one year into a situationship, and going on a dating bender to try and fill the void. 

Spoiler alert: it doesn’t work.

He explores the deeper reasons why he’s been chasing “pale, petite art hoes” and why he used to value dating white women.

❤️‍?Dating While Asian is a 5-part docuseries where pan-Asian New Zealanders share their sweet, messy and horny dating stories.

Made with the support of NZ On Air.

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